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Marriage after baby — calculators

Reflective tools for the first five years after a child, plus a sex-and-marriage comparison. Complete them independently, then compare. Not a diagnosis — a way to see what you can change. Companion essays: The First Five Years, How Having a Child Changes Your Marriage, and Sex and Marriage.

• Sex & Marriage CalculatorCompare how two partners experience frequency, satisfaction, desire, communication, and pressure — not a weekly quota.
• Marriage Satisfaction ScoreWeighted 0–100 across ten dimensions. Both partners complete it, then compare.
• Post-Baby Pressure IndexSleep, childcare, work, time — which load is adding the most strain.
• Fairness CalculatorContribution versus perceived fairness. Fair is not 50/50.
• Family Support & DistancePractical help, emotional belonging, culture, and autonomy.
• Individual IdentityWhether one partner has much less of a self left.
• Couple ConnectionTalk, affection, dates, laughter, feeling valued.
• Parenting TeamDecisions, nights, trust — and where you disagree most.
• Marriage TimelineChild age → typical stage, and which factors usually matter then.
• Risk & Resilience DashboardCombines the scores you have already completed.